Changing Lives in Real Time
We want to tell you a story about a recent THRIVE Workshop participant who reminded us of the power of taking inspired action toward our big why… but first some context.
Using a trauma informed framework, NRI teaches how to engage with people in a way that acknowledges the role that trauma or toxic stress might play in their lives. One key principle from trauma informed care is that all behavior is communicating a need. In our workshops, we dedicate time to help participants use practical ways to respond to the needs being expressed rather than react to any negative behaviors.
While we share best practices, we emphasize this truth even more: YOU are the most important tool for building resilience. The best answers for helping others are found within your own heart. Healing and thriving happen only through authentic and caring connection.
As we step into teaching the THRIVE Resilience Model™, we start with Trusted Relationships – being in a trusting relationship with a responsible adult who provides care, positive role modeling and encouragement. We move on to High Expectations – creating an environment that expects best efforts, supports meaningful learning, and provides accountability without shame. (Click here for the other THRIVE capacities).
Now back to the recent workshop…
During the afternoon break, a high school counselor said that she recently had several “high risk” students no show their appointments. Prior to the workshop, she had told herself that these kids were responsible for their behavior and that she was not going to track them down to reschedule. Understandable – right?
Yet, in an inspired moment earlier that day, she fully owned both the right and responsibility that she carried as someone in a position to strengthen, and perhaps even save, a young life. Recounting some of the reminders from our time together about what these students might be dealing with, the importance of her role in their life, and the benefit of clearly communicating high expectations, she realized that there was a better path forward for all.
The counselor shared that she had used some of her break time throughout the day to follow up with each and every one of these students, telling them that she expected them to promptly follow up to reschedule their appointment and to show up as scheduled. She also reminded them that she truly cared about them and was there to support them. Some of the students had already rescheduled that same day.
The counselor felt grateful not only to reconnect with why she became a counselor in the first place, but also to have an expanded toolbox of practical actions and helpful language to live out her big why.
Later that day, we showed a video of Dr. Rita Pierson, where she says, “Every child deserves a champion. An adult who will never give up on them, who understands the power of connection, and insists that they become the best that they can possibly be.”
With gratitude, we celebrated yet another THRIVE Champion in the room who so beautifully stepped into her role for several students who needed exactly what only she could offer.